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Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Men who keep their marital status a secret...

My girlfriend told me about a male colleague of hers who recently got married but yet don't want others to know. He is pretty successful, 30 something, a little full of himself - the type who thinks that he is eligible and a hot property to women. He was probably a bit of a player and dated around when he was single.

He has been dating his girlfriend for more than 1 year now and they recently got married. Even when he was dating her, he did not talk much about his girlfriend. But now that he is married, apparently he does not want people to know. It is like a big secret.

So what is it about a man who want to keep his marital status a secret? Is he still hoping that another girl comes along and he wants to keep his options open?

Is she pregnant? Well, nope she is not, so that is not the reason for secrecy.

So I don't really understand men who wants to keep the marital status a secret. Many of them also do it discreetly by not wearing their wedding band! If they are so faithful to their wives, why would they not give all the indications that they are married to others?

Can you stand it if your man decides to keep your relationship a secret? In what circumstances would you allow it? What reasons would he say to convince you?

For me....I would not marry the man if the relationship would be a secret whether for a while or whatever. It just sounds too fishy.

Who would want to be a wife in the dark? Or a girlfriend in the dark? Don't kid yourself to say that you are with him for whatever best reasons he may have. Don't start in a secretive relationship. It will just eat you up!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Why are people so inconsiderate?

May 2009



My hubby and I decided to treat ourself to getaway in a beautiful luxurious hotel.

It was a beautiful hotel, newly furnished and the room we had was fit for the Queen and King.

Just as we entered our room, just outside there was a huge spread of food. It came as part of our room package. For both of us only.

Auds and her friends were there too...they were waiting for their food at another table. When they saw our spread of food, they came over and started eating.

I told them, this food is not for them. It is only for my room. They all ignored us and continued eating.

I was pissed, how can people be so incosiderate? Not only they are eating food that is not theirs, they did not stop to ask if they can eat.




Pissed me off even in my dreams.

Monday, December 20, 2010

"Fake" Men

He was a good friend. Good guy, very attentive and nice to women. He is the type of guy that women can fall easily in love with. Smooth-talker, funny, smart, good-looking, socialize well, attentive (the type that protects women when you are with him), a good friend, overall a guy whom a girl will feel really lucky to have as her man. No faults, almost perfect.

Many moons ago when I first got to know him, I didn't see any faults, we became fast friends and I actually considered. But then just as I considered, it was like a big curtain was opened in my eyes. He was all the positives of the above, but then I saw something else. So small that nobody would notice. So small that even if I told others, they won't see it or believe me either.

But when I saw this little small fault, it never left me. He is a "little fake".

And I say a "little" cos in general, you won't be able to see it. In general, he is still a nice guy. In general he is still all that he is and all that he shows himself to be - all the positives. But I saw that he is not all that genuine, some of his actions so subtly but I saw is all not that real. Almost like a pretense but then he is not really pretending. It is difficult to describe. But it is like, he is this really nice guy and he is and he does do all the nice things but then once in a while he slips, you see that he is not 100% genuine. It is like a show he shows but a show that he has perfected that he almost became perfect but in actuality deep down he is not perfect.

Then again, is he all the positives above, yes he is. Is he a good friend, yes he is. Is he like a perfect husband/bf, yes he is. But I could not get over the little glimpse of "fakeness" I saw. It was almost I saw him for who he really is. I am still his friend but we are no longer close. But I have not become cold, there was no reason too. I became like him "fake" when I am with him. I am still like nice and close to him, we joke, we show concern, we are great friends but I am a "little fake", not 100% genuine. So, to avoid my own fakeness, I distance myself as necessary and naturally from him. I don't want to be a fake even if it is 1%.


He married the nicest girl. The girl worships the ground he walks on. She has been in love with him like forever. Together, they are like match made in heaven. Perfect life, Perfect couple.

Then I found out he slept around. Or well, I heard he slept with a collegue. This apparently happened a year ago. I wasn't around at that time. When I heard this from a source, I was in a dilemma.

He is a friend, his wife is a friend infact became a close girlfriend ie. we hang out and the girl he slept with is also a friend. Wow!! What am I to do?

Should I say something to him? He is after all, my friend first but then we are not that close anymore.

Should I say something to his wife? As a girlfriend to her, I should, but then this happened sometime back, I just heard about it now and it is from a third party. What if it is not true?

Should I say something to the girl he "apparently" slept with? I know her, we are friends but who am I to say anything to her??

So I confided with a girlfriend who also know all 3 of them. She hated me for it :) cos now she also has to carry the burden. At least there are 2 of us now. Anyway, we decided that we will not say anything.

Primary reason - we did not see it with our own eyes, what if not true, why plant a seed of betrayal if we don't even know for sure there was and whatmore this happened one year ago.

I hope we made the right decision.

This story came up again for me, sparked up by a dream I had yesterday.

He AS did it again. Apparently, he slept with many girls. We were all at a party. I was in a bad mood and wanted to leave. I started to walk out the door. I saw his wife DE in the crowd. She stopped me and said she wanted to talk. But I was in a hurry to go. I asked her can it wait? She said ok. But she looked sad. As I walked away, I felt bad. Did I do the right thing? Should I just stay and talk to her? I looked back at her, she was already talking with 2 other people. I hurried on. SP stopped me. She asked if she can walk with me and go where I was going. I said fine. We took the car and sped off.

SP wanted to talk to me. We stopped at a coffee stall. She told me that DE found out that AS has been sleeping around. She found hundreds of text messages on his phone from MAS air stewardess. DE is very sad. We need a plan.

I woke up. A dream based on reality.


Friday, December 17, 2010

What killed Ranjan Das and Lessons for Corporate India?

This story left a deep impression on me. Key message - SLEEP!

What killed Ranjan Das and Lessons for Corporate India

Many of us heard about the sad demise of Ranjan Das from Bandra, Mumbai. Ranjan, just 42 years of age, was the CEO of SAP-Indian Subcontinent, the youngest CEO of an MNC in India. He was very active in sports, was a fitness freak and a marathon runner. It was common to see him run on Bandra's Carter Road. Just after Diwali, on 21st Oct, he returned home from his gym after a workout, collapsed with a massive heart attack and died. He is survived by his wife and two very young kids.

It was certainly a wake-up call for corporate India. However, it was even more disastrous for runners amongst us. Since Ranjan was an avid marathoner(in Feb 09, he ran Chennai Marathon at the same time some of us were running Pondicherry Marathon 180 km away), the question came as to why an exceptionally active, athletic person succumb to heart attack at 42 years of age.

Was it the stress?
A couple of you called me asking about the reasons. While Ranjan had mentioned that he faced a lot of stress, that is a common element in most of our lives. We used to think that by being fit, one can conquer the bad effects of stress. So I doubted if the cause was stress.

The Real Reason
However, everyone missed out a small line in the reports that Ranjan used to make do with 4-5 hours of sleep. This is an earlier interview of Ranjan on NDTV in the program 'Boss' Day Out':
http://connect.in.com/ranjan-das/play-video-boss-day-out-ranjan-das-of-sap-india-229111-807ecfcf1ad966036c289b3ba6c376f2530d7484.html
Here he himself admits that he would love to get more sleep (and that he was not proud of his ability to manage without sleep, contrary to what others extolled).

The Evidence
Last week, I was working with a well-known cardiologist on the subject of ‘Heart Disease caused by Lack of Sleep’. While I cannot share the video nor the slides because of confidentiality reasons, I have distilled the key points below in the hope it will save some of our lives.

Some Excerpts:

· Short sleep duration (<5 or 5-6 hours) increased risk for high BP by 350% to 500% compared to those who slept longer than 6 hours per night. Paper published in 2009.
As you know, high BP kills.

· Young people (25-49 years of age) are twice as likely to get high BP if they sleep less. Paper published in 2006.

· Individuals who slept less than 5 hours a night had a 3-fold increased risk of heart attacks. Paper published in 1999.

· Complete and partial lack of sleep increased the blood concentrations of High sensitivity C-Reactive Protein (hs-cRP),the strongest predictor of heart attacks. Even after getting adequate sleep later, the levels stayed high!!

· Just one night of sleep loss increases very toxic substances in body such as Interleukin-6 (IL-6), Tumour Necrosis Factor-Alpha (TNF-alpha) and C-reactive protein (cRP). They increase risks of many medical conditions, including cancer, arthritis andheart disease. Paper published in 2004.

· Sleeping for <=5 hours per night leads to 39% increase in heart disease. Sleeping for <=6 hours per night leads to 18% increase in heart disease. Paper published in 2006.

Ideal Sleep
For lack of space, I cannot explain here the ideal sleep architecture. But in brief, sleep is composed of two stages: REM (Rapid Eye Movement) and non-REM. The former helps in mental consolidation while the latter helps in physical repair and rebuilding. During the night, you alternate between REM and non-REM stages 4-5 times.

The earlier part of sleep is mostly non-REM. During that period, your pituitary gland releases growth hormones that repair your body. The latter part of sleep is more and more REM type.

For you to be mentally alert during the day, the latter part of sleep is more important. No wonder when you wake up with an alarm clock after 5-6 hours of sleep, you are mentally irritable throughout the day (lack of REM sleep). And if you have slept for less than 5 hours, your body is in a complete physical mess (lack of non-REM sleep), you are tired throughout the day, moving like a zombie and your immunity is way down (I’ve been there, done that L)

Finally, as long-distance runners, you need an hour of extra sleep to repair the running related damage.

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Did I Tell You About My Doctor's Crush?

I kinda have a crush on him. He is a doctor ok, I am in awe with his confidence, his expertise :) And to qualify, I love my hubby very very much. But, I must say that a woman is entitled to innocent crushes :) :)

Back to my doc story.

I saw him at the same restaurant having lunch with 2 ladies.

I went over to said hello, he introduced his wife. Nice! see...a good man.

I went on to my own lunch.

He finished first.

As he got out of his table, he naturally greeted me goodbye. Again..nice!

But the unexpected happen. He lost his footing slightly and almost tripped. In a rather quiet room, this was a slight commotion.

He regained composure and walked away.

Awwww...I felt bad for him. To be precise, I felt bad because I think he would feel embarrassed and then feel bad. And so I sincerely hope he does not feel bad.

I guess, if it was me in that position, I would feel embarrassed and would in turn feel bad. But then again, that's just me.

I am sure he without a single thought of the incident, went back and focused on his patients. :)

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

A Priest That Will Not Lie

Joke Of The Day

A distinguished young woman on a flight from Ireland asked the Priest beside her, 'Father, may I ask a favor?'

'Of course child. What may I do for you?'

'Well, I bought an expensive woman's electronic hair dryer for my Mother's birthday that is unopened and well over the Customs limits, and I'm afraid they'll confiscate it. Is there any way you could carry it through customs for me? Under your robes perhaps?'

'I would love to help you, dear, but I must warn you: I will not lie.'

'With your honest face, Father, no one will question you.'

When they got to Customs, she let the priest go ahead of her.. The official asked, 'Father, do you have anything to declare?'

'From the top of my head down to my waist, I have nothing to declare.'

The official thought this answer strange, so asked, 'And what do you have to declare from your waist to the floor?'

'I have a marvelous instrument designed to be used on a woman, but which is, to date, unused.'

Roaring with laughter, the official said, 'Go ahead, Father. Next!

Sunday, October 3, 2010

I have been out of touch, thus I am easily touched

Aug 2010


It is strange. It's been 3 months of pretty much myself and hubby. Weekend with friends.


I didn't think I miss much of the connection with people. Honestly, I rather be a hermit.


Today, someone was nice to me. Just providing a good service. Being a gentleman.


I was touched. It was nice.


Strange feeling.


I think I need to get out more.

Thursday, September 30, 2010

My health is Perfectly FINE but I don't feel fine.

February 2010

I wrote this June'09 and I kinda still feel the same now.

I feel that something is wrong.

I feel like something is not right with my body.

I must be sick, I am probably not in the best of health.

I need to do a whole body check up.

I need to find out what's wrong.

I did the body check up and they found nothing wrong.

The doctor said everything looks fine and even my cholesterol is lower than the year before.

"But...but...but...are you sure?" I said "Nothing is wrong?? But I don't feel well, I get head aches, my kneecap is in pain sometimes, my fingers are stiff, my stomach don't feel well etc etc etc"

I spoke for the next 15 minutes on all my potential sickly symptoms. There must be something wrong with me. Tell me what it is and give me the medication!!!!




Your medical test is looking great, everything is fine. Go home!




That's it??!!!! Am I really fine? I hope so.


It is Sept 2010 and I read something that gave me a fright. The symptoms look similar. I am probabaly scaring myself but I do want to talk to a doctor on my concerns. I pray that I am being overparanoid and my body is ok.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Toilet Paper when you need it

You are done, You look up and went "Uh oh!!

Isn't that the worst nightmare?!!

What do you do?? Sigh!!

There is always a savior!! I opened a cabinet right beside me and behold... Toilet paper!

Bless my wonderful husband for putting it there!

Monday, September 20, 2010

Have you ever had a crush on your doctor?

I had 2.

2 doctors that I am into.

One sticks his hand into my backside. Really!

Another touched my legs. And gave my mom a fake kneecap.

Both good-looking, eloquent and smart. What's not to like?

Thursday, September 16, 2010

I want my job back

August 2010

I was back and wanted to go back to work.

I dressed up got into the car and drove to office

I arrived just in time 9am that's good. I can take my time to go in cos that's usually early for the office folks anyway.

Then I saw LeeLee hurry into the office.

Oh wow! What a change? I sensed the change in attitute. People from office now have a strong sense of discipline.

Ok that's it! I gotta hurry and show some urgency too. I should get in by 9am to get into my boss good books.

I walked in and there was this flight of stairs. Things looked different. Things have changed.

As I was walking up the stairs, I came to a step that was too high for most people to step up. Hmmm this is ridiculous. How do people get into the office?

Luckily there was an door opening to the left. I walked in.

The office looked full, everyone busy at their work.

Collegues greeted me happily.

I happily walked around talking to everyone.

As I wanted to sit down to start work, I had a realization!!

I resigned.

I don't have a job anymore.

I resigned! I was not on leave.

I really resigned.

Oh no! Can I get my job back?

Will my boss let me come back?

I have to find him!

I went around the office. He is not at his place. Even his secretary is not around.
Oh my! What do I do?

I woke up. I did resigned. I have no job. Blissfully happy. Should I get a job?

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Thank you for the umbrella

May '09 - seriously??


The sun was still shining hot at 6pm.

I decided to work my lazy body by walking up my favourite hill path.

As I was getting out of my car, something reminded me about taking my umbrella.

Pride voice - "No need-la! So troublesome! The sun is shining. It won't rain! Furthermore, it is so uncool to walk with an umbrella. You will look like an auntie."

Humility voice - "Just take it, just in case! How troublesome can it be? Furthermore can use as protection from"

I walked up the hill.

It rained.

I am glad I decided to be uncool. I have an umbrella over my head.

Friday, July 2, 2010

Memo From HR

To All Employees
Effective Immediately


Dress Code
1. It is advised that you come to work dressed according to your salary. If we see you wearing Prada shoes and carrying a Gucci bag, we assume you are doing well financially and therefore do not need a pay raise.
2. If you dress poorly, you need to learn to manage your money better, so that you may buy nicer clothes, and therefore you do not need a pay raise.
3. If you dress just right, you are right where you need to be and therefore you do not need a pay raise.

Sick Days
We will no longer accept a doctor's certificate as proof of sickness. If you are able to go to the doctor, you are able to come to work.

Holiday Days
Each employee will receive 104 personal days a year. They are called Saturday & Sunday.

Compassionate Leave
This is no excuse for missing work. There is nothing you can do for dead friends, relatives or co-workers. Every effort should be made to have non-employees attend to the arrangements.
In rare cases where employee involvement is necessary, the funeral should be scheduled in the late afternoon. We will be glad to allow you to work through your lunch hour and subsequently leave one hour early.

Toilet Use
1. Entirely too much time is being spent in the toilet. There is now a strict three-minute time limit in the cubicles.
2. At the end of three minutes, an alarm will sound, the toilet paper roll will retract, the cubicle door will open, and your picture will be taken.
3. After your second offence, your picture will be posted on the company notice board under the "Chronic Offenders" category.
4. Anyone caught smiling in the picture will be sanctioned under the company's mental health policy.

Lunch Break
1. Skinny people get 30 minutes for lunch, as they need to eat more so that they can look healthy.
2. Normal size people get 15 minutes for lunch to get a balanced meal to maintain their average figure.
3. Chubby people get 5 minutes for lunch, because that's all the time needed to drink a Slim-Fast.

Thank you for your loyalty to our company. Remember we are an employer of choice and we are here to provide a positive employment experience. Therefore, all questions, comments, concerns, complaints, frustrations, irritations, aggravations, insinuations, allegations, accusations, contemplations, consternation and input should be directed elsewhere.

The Management

Thursday, July 1, 2010

My Anniversary and The Bitch's Annoucement

Great! On my lovely day!

I get the news. The Bitch is OUT.

She got what she wanted. I was the sacrificial lamb.

Anyway, good for her. I hope she is happy.

As for me, I still have not forgotten. But who cares about her?

I am happy now. Better later than never. I am happiest ever.

Between my anniversary and the bitch's announcement... I will focus definitely on my beautiful life.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Jennifer Aniston with 4 nipples

Ok...it was a really weird dream. There she was, Jennifer Aniston, one of my favourite actress and no doubt one of the beauties of Hollywood.

It was kinda a weird place. Everyone was naked. Almost like a orgy place.

Jennifer Aniston was just there, naked.

I sat beside her.

She was talking to me. Almost like we were friends.

I noticed something weird.

Her right breast had 2 nipples.

She noticed my stare and then showed me that she had another nipple in the middle of her cleavage.

Ok...kinda scary.

But what's next is even scarier. I think I leaned forward and kiss her left breast!!!

Oh gosh...I am so glad I woke up!



Monday, June 28, 2010

Top Ten Sexual Fantasies for Men

This is taken and edited from Andrew Witherspoon's article on Associatedcontent.

I don't know how far this top ten is accurate, well.... he is a guy so probably that accounts for something.

In his article, Andrew Witherspoon did give a warning so I might as well paste it too. WARNING!! Some of these fantasies are for the strong of heart as others are specifically for the wild. Also, be safe, use protection such as condoms and other sexual paraphanalia.

Countdown

Fantasy # 10
Sex with another man.

Uh oh!! Are you serious?? Hmmm....Apparently, it doesn't necessarily mean that your man is gay. He may just want to experiment or want you to experiment with him. So would you do it? Luckily it is at no. 10.

Fantasy # 9
Sexual Ravaging.


Men fantasize of having complete control of a woman. Don't worry, this can also work in reverse. Ravage your man and make him submit. It works too.

Fantasy # 8
Bondage.


Bondage can work by itself but works best with fantasy # 9. He wants to tie you up!! So, invest in silk ribbons, handcuffs, and other such devices for this purpose.

Fantasy # 7
Anal Sex.


I will just ignore this!!!

Fantasy # 6
Masturbation.

Yeah, I don't think many men would turn down an offer to be touched where it counts and rest assured, if you get him in the mood he will reciprocate.

Fantasy # 5
Voyeurism and Exhibitionism.

Apparently, there is the freak in every man. Expressively show your affection when he least expects it, making sure you have an audience. If he is a sexually mentally healthy male, he will blush but he will enjoy it too.

Fantasy # 4
Sex with more than one woman.


I thought this would rank higher. I think this is every man's desire or at the very least they have thought about it. It may be their fantasies but ladies, you don't have to agree or action on it! :)

Fantasy # 3
Oral Sex.


Ok, I think you ladies know this already. Put your money where your mouth is. pun intended. It is a sure bet that your man will love oral sex, either on him or him on you. Either way, everyone wins.

Fantasy # 2
Having sex with a past partner.


This, I did not really agree with him. What do you think guys? Do you fantasize about sex with your previous girlfriends??!!! And second on the list. Hmmm...hard to believe.

Fantasy # 1
Fantasies about current partner.


This was very nice to know. This is exactly what Andrew wrote "Believe me, your man thinks plenty about you, what he has done with you and what he wants to do with and to you in the future!"

Friday, June 25, 2010

Waiting for death??!!

Just because I am not doing anything doesn't mean I am waiting for death.

Such a nonsense remark. I can only say, keep your jealousy to yourself. Pityful.

But then again, I cannot control what others want to say.

They can say whatever they want. It does not have to affect me.

As long as I am happy doing nothing, what's is it to you?

I can only say...Don't envy me because you have no choice but to do something.

I made a choice to do nothing.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Another major shouting match

I shouted and shouted!

I was really angry. Only my mom could do that to me. She is amazing.

There is a Chinese saying, "Our bones have been mixed" - which means that we don't see eye to eye on anything. And this is true with me and mom.

I wish things could be different.

I pity my dad cos he is always stuck in the middle.

I do end up shouting at him too.

Anyway, I try my best to make things better for them but they don't trust me so they amke things difficult for me. I get mad.

After the shouting match, I do feel disturbed. I feel sad. I feel guilty.

But can I make amends? Can I get over my anger and be nice to them again.

I will have to get over my pride.

Damn! Why do they have to piss me off?

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Family can pissed me off so much

Arghhh!!!!

Even thousand of miles away, they can still do this to me.

Why? Why? Why?

Arghhhh!!! Amazing! Everytime, I speak to my mom, I inevitably will raise my voice.

My dad is ok and I think everything is ok but then they will call my brother to say something about me. And then my bro will call me and I will erupt again.

Why? Why? Why?

Arghhh!! Family!!! Love them or Hate them?

They really pissed me off. I now need time to recover. Need time to be calm again.

Why must it be like that with family?

Monday, June 21, 2010

Even his thigh is enough?

We are together.

Happy. Just the two of us.

Even though there are other people around, but it feels like there are only the two of us.

We sat down on our home sofa. I was just holding on to his thigh.

And at that moment I felt, it is enough...if I can do this now, it is enough.

This was a dream I had 3 months ago when we were apart. I missed him, that's all I can say. To touch him again, feel him near me, it would be priceless.

And now, being together, I have to remember that even his thigh is enough.

Friday, June 18, 2010

I am here and feeling bliss

We are finally together.

The feeling is fantatstic.

I just wanna enjoy and feel every moment with happiness.

Thank You God for this blessing.

Monday, March 15, 2010

I have a lot to make up for.....

I don't like to look back.

I can only look forward.

I choose not to feel the guilt. It is not about feeling guilty. Only tears will flow when I focus on guilt.

I know I want to make up. I want to make up to him for the 2 years that we did not have.

That will be my focus. I must remember this when we are together again. Another 2 months to go. I really can't wait. This should have happened 2 years ago.

But no point looking back, I can only look forward and make it up!

Monday, March 1, 2010

Of closet, dust, bugs and fried anchovies??

I packed 2 large suitcases.

Normally, I would be very excited to open up my suitcases when I arrived at the destination.

Somehow, this time, I relaxed first, talked a bit and did not even bother to open the suitcase yet.

Hmmm...that's so not me. I should unpack now.

I went to my closet.

Wow! it was dusty!

There were even bugs amongst the folded clothes.

And right in front of me was 2 pcs of fried anchovies!!!!!

When I woke up, this is what I understood of my dream.

I have been away too long. Even my closet is sending me signals that it has been tooooo Loooong.

I will be back soon. Hang in there!

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Sometimes family's words hurt you more

Is it advice?
Is it intentional?
Is there malice behind the words?
Is it jealously?
Is it just a harmless banter?

You never know the intentions of others cos you are not them.
You are you. You know yourself and you know how you feel.

If someone said something to you, whatever their intentions may be - you may never know but what you know is how you feel.

I was hurt. Hurt by the words. Hurt by the innocent banter or maybe it wasn't so innocent after all. Maybe there was a message, maybe it intended to hurt and that was why it did hurt.

You are leaving? Did you get the compensation? Oh! You did not. If you had known, you could have left a year ago, you could be with baby by now and your baby could be talking by now.

My! that was a blow! Even as I am writing this tears welled up my eyes. Those words hurt. Even if there was no malicious intent, the outcome to me was hurtful.

Never mind, I can't control what others want to say but I can control what I want to do.

I will live! No regrets! I will live even better. If I am happy who cares what others think.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Is it wrong to be with a Married Man? Part 2

Hey, remember the story I posted a couple of months ago... Click link

There is never the right way or the wrong way. There is also no perfection in life. Sometimes we are put into situations and we are forced to choose. The path may not be the perfect path as desired but it somehow feel like the best path even though it has its imperfections.

Such is a path when you are with a married man. No matter how right it feels, fundamentally it is wrong ...somewhat....

But can it really be wrong when it feels so right?

The story continues..HE is really into HER. He will divorce his wife. He has told his wife. There is no love between them. But the wife does not want a divorce. I think she just does not want to let go.

HE promised HER that HE will divorce his wife. He seems to be really in love with HER.

SHE is in love with HIM too.

What would you do if you were in this situation?

You are single and not getting younger with no prospective man in sight and realize you are in love with him.
He is married with a kid, in love with you and wants to get a divorce to be with you.

Is this happily ever after?

He's Just NOT That Into You...


I love love-stories. And this one was just right.

Not too soppy, and a nice nice ending. Love love-stories with a nice ending.

It's so lovely when a man confess, takes charge, grabs the girl with love and just kiss her.

Awww....I am a sucker for love stories.

Monday, February 8, 2010

It's not easy to live in a lie

Fear and unhappiness.

Dreading each day.

Feel like escaping everyday.

But you know you cannot escape for long.

It's like the saying - You can run but you cannot hide!

I hate the fear.

I hate living this way.

But it will be over soon.

I am already planning ahead.

I can't wait for my life to begin again.

I can't wait to do what I should have done 2 years ago.

Sunday, February 7, 2010

So much anger passed down....

I have hoped that the generation "curse" would stop at me.

I wanted to be the change agent, I wanted to be the person who is better.

But I have been failing. Infact, I think I am even worse than both of them.

There is just so much anger. My mom with my grandmother, Me with my mom and even my grandmother.

I have to admit, I am angry at my mom. No matter how much I love her, I have no gentle way to expresss. I am angry on the outside. I only know how to show anger to express my love. The exact same way that my mom treats me.

Why am I falling into the same spiral? The exact thing that I hated all my life, I am doing exactly the same thing, it is almost like my revenge back to her.

But I know that I want to change. I pray for the strength and the will to follow-thru.

Let me find the compassion to treat my mom and grandma with softness and not anger.

Monday, February 1, 2010

The destination is clear

I think we have finally decided.

Why am I still skeptical?

I don't know. Maybe I am afraid if I get too happy or I plan towards it, it may not come true.

So I am calm with a little pessimism versus jumping for joy.

Just let it be for now. I just want to hear God voice, God's confirmation againa and again.

So let me be calm, let not the excitement cloud what I need to do.

So I am calm and will continue to plough on. 3 months. I think I can make it.

I can't use my middle finger anymore

Jan 14, 2010

Damn!

There is a flickering pain.

Flickering pain of the nerve.

It's damn irritating.

Therefore no more laptop pad.

I need a mouse pad!

Switch from middle finger to index finger.

I can't wait

Jan 7, 2010

I have decided finally.

I asked God to bless this decision.

I am excited and filled with apprehension.

But I know I can't wait.

One word.

One resolution.

TOGETHER.

Message from my hubby

Dec 12, 2009

Feel good about yrself and be confident that we will have the answer soon. HOPE and think about how good and nice when we be together.

I pray and wish the answer will come soon.

I am aimless

Dec '09

Have you ever felt this way?

I know my problem is not big but I do know I have a problem.

I just feel life has no meaning and I don't know what is the future.

I only live for the day, and just take each activity as it comes.

I pray for the direction, I pray for the answer.

I know it will come. Have Faith.

Meanwhile, I have to stop feeling aimless.

Thursday, January 7, 2010

No sex again

It was early morning.
He is beside me.
Really? Can't that be true?
Ok maybe we should get some "action".

But then he got up. He went outside the room.
I followed.
But it's still early. There is still time for some "action".

I went back to bed.
I waited.
But he did not come back into the room.
Sigh.

No chance! No sex even in my dreams