USA or home?

I made the unexpected trip to USA. I miss him. Also all my stuff, my abandoned stuff, my life is all here in USA.


And there and then I decided, THIS IS IT! No more long distance! I will go back home but then in March I will be back to USA again for good!


Then I looked around the house, the curtains all look out of order. Most are not big enough to cover the windows. My neighbours could actually see inside.


Infact, as I was undressing, there was a peeping neighbour who happened to look in at me with no shame.


"Oh Shit!" Why didn't I bring new curtains from Malaysia this trip? Cos I don't think I can carry curtains in March as I would have more things to bring to USA!! Aiya!!"


With that last thought - I woke up!

I wanted to tell my hubby the dream. I called up and ended having a argument on what more he can do in our current situation. I am frustrated that there is no progress, no answer to our situation.

SMART ALECS out there ANSWER THIS

I know the Singaporeans know all this already - I meant the questions, I don't know if you all know the answers or should I say how to come up with the answers.

Anyway, just recently these Mathematics questions which is part of the Primary 6 test created a big huuuhaaa in Singapore as parents complain about the high level of difficulty in the questions. Remember Primary 6 means students that are just 12 or below.

If you have what it takes...please attempt to answer. As for me, I am first to say, I give up. Too lazy to use my Malaysian brain.

Question 1
Jim bought some chocolates and gave half of it to Ken. Ken bought some sweets and gave half of it to Jim. Jim ate 12 sweets and Ken ate 18 chocolates. The ratio of Jim’s sweets to chocolates became 1:7 and the ratio of Ken’s sweets to chocolates became 1:4. How many sweets did Ken buy?"

Question 2
String of 2 big balloons is 90cm
String of 5 small balloons is is 1.2m
If both strings are of the same length, there would be 105 more small balloons than the big balloons. How many balloons are there altogether?


Question 3
Mei and Lin were in a bicycle race. Mei was travelling at a constant speed of 20km/hr and they both did not change their speed. When Lin completed half the race, Mei was 3.5km ahead. Mei completed the race at 10.45am. What time did Lin complete the race?

Don't cheat. :)

I will retire when I have my first grandchild....

Out of the blue....this is what my father-in-law said.

I will retire when I have my first grandchild

The pressure is definitely on.

Shit, I wish I got married in my 20s. Instead I got married in my 30s and still in a long distance relationship with my hubby.

How to have baby-la?

But I believe there is a space and time for everthing and when time is right it will happen.

Today is Friday The 13th

Yes folks Today is Friday The 13th. I wish that people won't tell me but since someone told me today, I feel I need to spread a bit of the "not so good" omen that comes with Friday The 13th.

Why is Friday The 13th considered such a "scary" unlucky day.

Simple - thirteen is an unlucky number and Friday is an unlucky day. So combined you get a combo of being unlucky.

In numerology, the number twelve is considered the number of completeness, as reflected in the twelve months of the year, twelve signs of the zodiac, twelve hours of the clock, twelve tribes of Israel, twelve Apostles of Jesus, twelve gods of Olympus, etc., whereas the number thirteen was considered irregular, transgressing this completeness.

There is also a superstition, thought by some to derive from the Last Supper or a Norse myth, that having thirteen people seated at a table will result in the death of one of the diners.

Friday has been considered an unlucky day at least since the 14th century's The Canterbury Tales, and many other professions have regarded Friday as an unlucky day to undertake journeys or begin new projects.

Black Friday has been associated with stock market crashes and other disasters since the 1800s. It has also been suggested that Friday has been considered an unlucky day because, according to Christian scripture and tradition, Jesus was crucified on a Friday.

So there folks, are you feeling unlucky today or are you going to brave the day filled with gusto.

As for me, I just know its Friday!!! and it is just a few more hours to the end day and the weekend. Yahooooooooooo!!

Is is WRONG to be with a MARRIED Man?

I don't know whether married men have itchy backsides or single females are desperate after they hit 35 years above but the whole extra-marital affairs is happening more and more. I keep hearing stories about it and worst, it is happening to my friends too.

In this day and age when nothing is as clear as black or white, has extra marital affair fallen into the grey area?

When 2 people develop feelings for each other, sometimes what is preceived as wrong does not feel so wrong anymore.

There are many reasons and excuses for people to do wrong. Does this mean that we accept them and just let it happen?

I am not being judgemental about what people choose for their lives. If they have chosen, so be it. But the question in my mind - Is it wrong or is it ok? And before you jump into the "grey"area, is there really a black or white answer?

This is the story.

HE says he has no feeling for his wife anymore. Their marriage is irreversible. They still stay together for the sake of their child. The wife has threatened to take away the child if they divorce.

SHE is above 35 and single, independant, carefree and socialable. She just could not find the right man to love her. Age is catching up it seems extremely difficult to find any decent guy. It's not that she is choosy, there just are too few good single guys above 35.

They are close friends and have been collegues for more than 10 years. Everything was fine and dandy until one day he confessed his love for her. She was shocked and a little touched.

She knows that she does not want to be in the middle of him and his family. He says he is very clear that his marriage is over. She has told him that there can be nothing between them while he is married. He also promised he will not do anything to her while he is still attached.

However, he wants to spend time with her, buy her things, shower her with gifts to showcase his genuine love. He needs time to handle his wife who is giving him a difficult time, not wanting a divorce and also using the child as a threat if he divorces her.

Meanwhile, he is clear that he will not touch her or force her to do anything she doesn't want to. His only request - Do not avoid him, and spend some time with him, for dinners, drinks etc just like old times.

This is her dilemma :-

She does not want to lose the friendship and she even want things the way it used to be, go out dinners, drinks etc. Also deep down, there is a possibility for them to be together. They have been friends for so long and they understand each othe very well. While she never considered him because he is married but now things are different, he confessed his love, he wants to divorce his wife, why avoid him? They may have a chance at love. Furthermore, she does not have anybody else. It is not like, there is another single guy waiting around for her. There is nobody so he is potential.....if only he was not married.

But if she continues to go out with him "as friends", will it lead anywhere? What is she develop more feelings for him? What if they can't control themselves?? They may be friends now but things have changed. It can never go back to being just friends like before. There are feelings involved now. Does she really want to be the 3rd party even though she and him has done no wrong now? What if his wife finds out that he loves another woman?

So she is in the "grey" area. Have not committed the "crime" but her actions are putting her in a very dangerous position. Should she choose "white" - keep away, avoid his advances even though they are just friends, at least for sometime? Or choose "black" - commit the "crime" and deal with the consequences?

What would you do in her situation?

Do married men think they are savior to the 30-something single women?

Who gives the right to a aging, balding and married man to ask a single 30 something woman if she is attached and if she is lonely??? And even suggesting that he will maybe buy a condo for her.

Now, this is the scenario - they are just business associates, they go for drinks in groups probably once or twice a week, they chit chat and yeah not to miss an important detail - they hooked up before years ago. Remember, it was years ago and they both have moved on since. He got married, have kids and she remained single..not by choice....just waiting for the right guy.

She is so over him, He is happily married with kids for goodness sake. Yes, she is single, she is 30 something and not getting younger but that does not mean that she needs this pathetic fella to have the audacity to suggest it.

Of course, he was not direct, he was smooth and casual, showing concern, asking how she is, is she attached?, anyone special in her life, is she lonely, he miss her, he is sorry for how things ended, he miss her, he's been thinking about their past, is she lonely, does she have anyone special, he miss her, he is err thinking of buying a condo unit for her......errrrr stop! Her response - ...whatever for?? eerrrr....why ah? for what?? His answer - Hmmm hmmmm...you know why...

So, I am trying to understand men...and why do married men do this? My conclusion on the above is only one...stupid men like him are just "gatal" aka "itchy". Trying his luck, trying to get the girl to bed. Just go home to your wife asshole!!

Take a look at yourself, you are not good looking, not even super rich, aging, balding, short but have the ego as big as yr stupid face. Go stuff yourself and don't disturb my BFF!

Humour for the Day - we need more of this!

Q: Why are condoms transparent?
A: So that sperms can at least enjoy the scene even if their entry is Restricted!


Signboard outside a prostitute's house:
Married MEN not allowed. We serve the needy, not the greedy...


New AIDS awareness slogan:
Try different positions with the same woman instead of same position with different women.

Why is $ex like shaving?
Well, because no matter how well you do it today... tomorrow you'll have to do it again...


Q: What will happen if earth rotates 30 times faster?
A: Men will get their salary everyday and women will bleed to death.


Q: Why do 90% gals have left boob bigger than right?
A: Bcoz 90% boys are right handed.


Q: What is the difference between an UNDERWEAR & a STAGE CURTAIN?
A: When you pull down the STAGE CURTAIN, the show is over, but when you pull down the UNDERWEAR..... it is SHOWTIME!


Q: What is the similarity between a wife and a chewing gum?
A: Both are sweet in the beginning but become tasteless and shapeless later


Advantages of having an affair with a married women.
They give like hell.
They do not yell.
They do not tell.
They do not swell and there is no wedding bell!


My dad told me that if Adam and Eve were Chinese, we would be still in Paradise. Why? Because they would have eaten the snake instead of the bloody apple!

Good one!!

Being apart with someone you love...

If you love someone, should both of you be apart?

If you have to be apart, for how long?

I have many plans to be a better wife.

When can I fulfill them?

Snake in your dreams - You want SEX!

Did you know that if you dreamt of a snake, this means that you are in need of sex?

I did not know that. I had a scary snake dream. Woke up and told my hubby. He said he dreamt of a snake too.

Had tea with a girlfriend and told her about my scary snake dream.

The first thing she said "You should not tell people if you dreamt of snakes"!

I was like " Oh No! Don't tell me, some bad omen stuff right! Something bad is gonna happen to me!!! Oh No! Oh No!

She went " Oh! Don't worry! It just means you want sex! So better not tell people that right!! :)

I went "Oh really! My hubby dreamt of snakes too. Fantastic, we both want SEX!"

The fight started......

My wife sat down on the settee next to me as I was flipping channels. She asked, 'What's on TV?'
I said, 'Dust.'
And then the fight started...
************ ********* ********* ********* ***

My wife and I were watching "Who Wants To Be A Millionaire" while we were in bed. I turned to her and said, "Do you want to have sex?"
"No," she answered.
I then said, "Is that your final answer?"
She didn't even look at me this time, simply saying, "Yes."
So I said, "Then I'd like to phone a friend."
And then the fight started....

Beware when using credit card to fill petrol.

Beware when using credit card to fill petrol.

Just got to know about this case through a friend that this thing actually happened to one of his co-workers. She used her credit card to purchase gas at the pump (like most of us do)

She received her receipt like normal. However, when she checked her statement, there were 2 $50 charges added in addition to her purchase.. Upon investigation, she found out that because she did not press the 'CLEAR' button on the pump, the employee inside the store was able to use her card to purchase his/her own gas! To keep this from happening, after you get your receipt, you must press the 'CLEAR' button or your information will be stored until the next customer inserts their card.

Be sure to tell all your friends/family so that this doesn't happen to them!
Pressing the clear button is a must whenever your have the transactions, wherenever, whenever and every time.

Tick, Tock, Tick, Tock....the baby clock is ticking

I have been thinking of babies.

I should be thinking of babies.

Shit, who invented the biological clock?!!!

I don't feel old - that's the problem.

I am old - that's the reality.

That's it! My kids next time will marry when they are 25 and by 35 they would have 3-4 kids!

No need to worry about tick, tock, tick, tock.

I am angry but I choose to feel pitiful for her

I think my boss is feeling totally threatened by me. That can be the only explanation with her current outburst which is totally left me dumbfounded.

I confronted her immediately and the excuse she gave was even more puzzling. To the point of ridiculous.

Actually I was really pissed. These are the things that make you not want to go to work, having your boss attack you openly.

But then I choose to pity her. I choose to feel sorry for her insecurity. Cos only she knows that she has acted in a ridiculous way but she will never admit openly.

So I choose to pity her and I hope she can live with herself.

You hit your collegue's ass..is that SEXUAL Harrasment?

True Story to someone I know :

He was working with a new collegue, teaching her how to do a report.

She was a bit blur. He got a little playful.

He picked up a ruler and hit her buttocks and said " I am hitting you because you have a big ass" .

He meant it as a joke.

She was offended!

She reported him to HR.

He was investigated.

He was FIRED!

What do you think? Was that sexual harrasment?

A Blow Kiss... :)

I am not sure how to feel. Sweet or funny?

One morning on the way to office, I saw a collegue of mine got out of a car in front of the office. She is in her mid twenties, a sweet looking girl.

The guy, obviously her boyfriend looked pretty much looked like a nice guy too. He gave a soft little honk as she turned away.

She turned back to him and guess what, she gave him a gentle blow kiss.

Hmmm, there I was...."stunned a little", "arrrr....so sweeet"..."OMG this is so funny" - these were all the thoughts that ran thru my head.

I was still very amused the whole morning and everytime I see her now, I have a little smile on my face.

When kids does it...arrr....it is so cute and sweet. But when a grown up do it to another grown up...errrr...I don't know how to feel! :)

Bitch with a fat ass mouth

My mom's hairdresser told my mom's friend who then told my mom that I am fat and not that pretty. What the F***???

What a bitch?!!!

Hey bitch...just watch your mouth! My beauty has nothing to do with you. I did not say I was pretty and slim. Others said it. So if you don't agree, keep you fat ass mouth shut.

Just watch your mouth and may your hair saloon go down the dumps with your filthy mouth.

Bitch!

Need to let off steam!

When the other woman turns out to be a man!!

Seriously, I really don't know what the world is becoming to. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against gay people - I have many friends who are gay. But, I wish there is a straight line to determine if you are here or there, men or women, yes or no. When there is ambiquity, that's when life gets a lot more complicated.

What would you do if you found out that your husband is having affair with another man? Or vice verse - Your wife is making love to another woman? Ironic, shocking or has this become so common that it is just another piece of news??

I heard this from The Star today. Sigh.

A 30-year-old woman who suspected her businessman husband of having an affair was shocked to discover that her rival was actually a man.

Sin Chew Daily reported yesterday that the woman had hired a private investigator to tail her husband after noticing a change in his attitude towards her.

According to the daily, the husband and his lover who has long flowing hair had gone to a secluded spot by the dockyard in Singapore to make out.

Upon being notified by the investigator, identified as Leong, the wife rushed to the scene hoping to catch the two of them in the act.

At the dockyard, Leong said he and the wife saw the car seat being lowered and the couple started to hug and kiss each other.

The wife ran to the car searching for the woman but could not find her.
She then asked Leong about the “woman” he saw in her husband’s car.

Puzzled, the investigator went over to check and was shocked to discover that the only two persons in the vehicle were men.

It turned out that the man’s lover was actually a cross-dresser, who was wearing a wig.

According to Leong, the husband would pick up a woman with long hair after work every day.

Cake Mania & Ranch Rush

I am proud to say Cake Mania and Ranch Rush have been my indulgence for the last few weeks.

Yeah.....I know my childhood was deprived!

For all the childhood deprived folks out there....I warn you, keep it that way! Don't start unless you want sleepless nights or cake-making and sheep counting dreams.

Gotta go....the sheeps, corns, tomatoes are waiting for me.

This is my Health Resolution

Ok ..reality hits...I am getting fat and my body no longer reacts positively to everything that I eat.

I get a headache from coffee.
My hearts beat 2 times faster when I drink Ipoh White Coffee.
My metabolic rate is much slower.
I eat half of what I used to eat but still fat.
My stomach can no longer take chilli.
Chilli now gives a a "flowery backside" (in Chinese).

So this is it. I have to change my lifestyle and my eating habit. The fact that I have IBS makes it even more critical for me to change. If not I will be having bowels issues and farting issues all the time!

So this is what I want to do :-

1) Coffee is only allows once a week.
2) Other times, should be water, milk, milo and also reduce teh tarik kurang manis
3) Eat slowly, chew my food.
4) Eat 4 - 5 times a day. Breakfast(9am), Break(11am), Lunch(12.30), Break(3.30pm), Dinner (7pm), Supper(10pm).
5) No more Chilli Padi, Reduce All sorts of chillies! Just don't take it. Don't be tempted. Just stop eating Chilli - try it for a week ok. Oh yeah - eat garlic as replacement instead!
6) Exercise - at least 4 times a day!

Easier written than to do. We'll see. Wish me luck.

I missed the bus

Waiting for bus at the bus stop.

The bus was no where in sight.
Got a bit restless, can’t just sit around and wait.
Went into a chocolate store, bought 2 chocolate. Girl at shop was wrapping the box

Bus came.

Nickie and Izzie went up the bus

"Hey girl! Wrap it faster, I got to get up the bus."
I came out just as the bus is driving off.

Nickie and Izzie were on the bus - "just ask the bus to stop"

Both of them were sitting at the back. Their action seemed slow.

Nickie stood up to ring the bell, so that the bus will stop at the next stop I guess.
I was running after the bus. It stopped, I was huffing and puffing.

The strong arms of Nickie grabbed me up the bus.

Bite the fucking bullet and just go!!

I miss my husband.

I felt it today. I don't know what we are doing being apart. How long more do we have to do this?

The ironic thing is that I am the mastermind behind it. I decided that we should be apart until we get clearer on where the path will lead us. In this economic times, we should hang on to what is stable vs making drastic changes. And that is why we are apart now.

I like to think that we are in it together, that we both made the decision but somehow I know deep down, my husband blames me or in the future, if anything happens to our relationship, this time being part may be the starting point of breakage.

Bite the fucking bullet and just go!! That is the risky path. Result - Together.

Stay and wait for certainty. That is the safe path. Result - Apart.

I chose the safe path because I am practical, I am safe, I am cautious.

We have been apart for close to 8 months now except for the 3 weeks when he came back.

I know I did this.

I am sorry.

I am just too practical, is that bad?

I am just too practical

I am just too pratical, calculative and too reasonable. I am not impulsive, often thinking once , twice, three times before doing anything. I anticipate concerns, issues and try my best to ensure everything will go smoothly.

I think a lot, probably too much.

It is good at one hand but also not so good at another.

I am not spontaneous

I am careful

I am boring.

I guess the separation is really getting to me...

I have not seen my hubby for 3 months....This is the manifestation of us being apart as depicted in my dream. It was really a dream.

I was on a business trip with my collegues to Japan. We were in bus station. We were supposed to take a bus into an outskirt area in Japan.

My hubby was supposed to meet me in Japan. As I arrived at the bus station, I looked arounded the crowded place for him. He was no where in sight.

I was getting a little anxious. The bus arrived and my collegues started going up.

" Where is hubby?"

Then someone familiar walked down from the bus. Ohhh! It's Ahkito. Not my hubby :) We had a good time in Europe when we were there for work. I have not seen him for some time!

But my attention quickly swing back looking for my hubby. Who cares about Ahkito?!! I am looking for my hubby.

Then he appeared. My hubby! We hugged. I miss him so. And he felt like he has lost some weight.

I asked him to come with me on the bus. At first he refused, he said he will wait for me to come back from the work place. I told him this place is quite remote and far away and I may not come back by evening. He agreed to come with me.

We got up the bus. It was a magical journey.

First we saw the sky as it we were in space. It was a magical blue in colourful and we could see Earth as if it was the biggest moon right in front of us.

The we passed a building, it looked like a condominium, all white in colour. The bus was on a higher ground so we could see into the different floors of the condo. And each floor we could see the tenants playing with polar bears. It was like a polar bear celebration. Every floor, every family had either 1 or 2 polar bears.

We passed the condo and came to some colourful buildings. It was up a pebbled road, the building looked like they were out of a paintings.

Then we arrived at our destination. It looked like the magical world of Disney, with castles and colorful people. The bus stopped.

My hubby got down quickly and left me to take all the luggages. I was a little pissed that he got down so fast. I pushed my way out as people already started coming up the bus.

As I got down the bus, the bus sped off.

I looked around for my hubby. He was nowhere in sight. I called his name. He did not answer. I called again, no answer, I could not find him. Was he still on the bus? Oh no!

I ran after the bus. I called his name. I ran. I called his name. I kept running, shouting his name. I kept shouting his name.......

I woke up.

I woke up this morning and thought it was Monday

Have you encountered this before?

I woke up this morning and I was dead sure that it was Monday and I had to get ready for work.

I was thinking thru the meetings I had for the day and what I needed to accomplish. And I did not want to get out of bed.

I was like...what happened this weekend? Where did my weekend go? How come I did not do this and that and that......

errr....it is not Monday...it is still Sunday!!!!!!

Hurray! Great...I went back to sleep...yawn.

I hope this happens tomorrow too..

I need to fix my IBS

Will explain that later....

Just want to remind myself I must change my eating habit next week. It must start and it all starts next week!

I must do it...will plan over the weekend.

Cheer me on...

The last time we touched was 3 months ago

My husband and I have been separated for 6 months now.

Ok not separated like separation leading to divorce kinda thing. It is more like separated by land and ocean. We are 24 hours apart by flight at different place and continent.

The last I saw him, the last we touched was 3 months ago.

He said he does not completely agree on why I am here but he says he understands.

But I know deep down, this is the last straw. We can't do it anymore. The separation is not doing any good.

I am giving it another 3 months......by then we must make a decision. Pray for an answer and open doors from God.

I slept with my bf's best friend and he is gay

My bf and I were refraining from sex, something that we agreed upon for our relationship.

We went to India or it looked like kinda a war torn Islamic country like what we usually see in the news - men carrying guns everywhere.

My bf went to work.

I was with my bf's best friend walking the streets. It was dangerous. He kept me safe.

We went back to the hotel. Someone tried to assasinate him but failed. It was a close call for both of us.

It happened. We did it, we had sex. Even though he is my bf's best friend and he is gay.


Wow! My dreams are getting more weird!

I wanna bitch about my boss

Can't help it! Just need to let out!

A boss who can't let go of the work

A boss who don't enable his/her people

A boss who wants does things before letting other know in order to take glory for him/herself

A boss who think seniority is more important than talent

A boss who feels threatened when you are better

A boss who's hairstyle is from a decade ago

A boss who does not sleep and works all the time and don't hesitate to tell the whole world about it.

You better agree with everthing that your boss says...then your life would be easy.

Banks are double faced pigs!!!

I had a revelation today. I finally see how banks actually treat their customer. If you are there to deposit monies, you get first priority and if you are there to withdraw, you will get last priority.


How did I know this? Here is my story for today....


I am not a big time business person, I don't have millions in the bank BUT I do not expect to be discriminated by the financial insitution called the bank!


Well, my banking transactions are pretty limited since I see banks as a means for savings. Therefore mostly ATMs to withdraw monies and when I enter the bank it is usually to deposit. Even now, I can deposit cheques and cash thru the machine so as much as possible, there is little time spent actually seeing a teller. Therefore, only when I deposit a FD, I will actually do a transaction via a teller.


Frankly, I must say that Maybank have improved their services, especially on time spent waiting TREMENDOUSLY. Years ago, one have to wait for 30 mins - 1 hour for any transaction but nowadays, it is amazingly fast. You tell the reception what you want to get done, she will advice if you need to fill up a form or not, and then you will be given a ticket number. At certain branches, and in particular this one that I usually go to...the tellers are upstairs. So amazingly, everytime I am given a number, I walk upstairs and nearly 99% of the time, before even I reach upstairs, my numbers would be called. Amazing right?!! Superb service right?!!


Until today! I really see the double face of Maybank!!


I decided to withdraw one of my FD today from Maybank. The reason simple - rumours that Maybank is not doing well and everyone is saying don't out all your eggs into the Maybank basket. Anyway, I decided to diversify and probably deposit some monies in other banks.


As usual, I went to the reception, and told them it is a FD transation. She asked me deposit or withdraw. I said withdraw, she gave me a ticket.


I rushed upstairs knowing that my number would be called since I am the next number on the ticket - 40xx


I reached upstairs and this time no "ting" for my number. So I waited for a while.


Strange...how come at least 3 tellers are not serving anybody but they did not "ting" for my number. Ok never mind, maybe for my transations, it is with the other tellers who are busy right now.


I stood there and waited. The tellers were still free, other tellers became available and yet they did not "ting" me.

"What's happening?"!!!!!

The "ting"...oh..it's not my number, they ting for 10xx. Then I saw a lady just managed to reach to the floor from downstairs and went straight to the teller.

They "ting" for at least another 7 new people who just walked in.

Can you imagine how I felt? I was fuming!!!! What the heck???!!!!

What the f*ck??!!! I was ready to walk to the counter and confront one of the tellers.

Then one of the manager from the back of the teller walked to the counter and "ting" my number.

I walked up and glared at him. He was a little taken aback.

I gave him my FD and a bank book and said withdraw and put into my savings account. He looked like he wanted to ask me a question but he could see I was fuming so he took my FD and asked me to wait while he process.

I told myself to stay calm and not to pick a fight. I will hold my tongue today!

Basically this is what happened. People who wants to withdraw monies is given the number starting 40xx. I suspect that the tellers are not supposed to "ting" these numbers but their supervisors are supposed to attend. Therefore, even though all tellers are free, my number was not "ting". The supervisor was supposed to question and ask why people want to withdraw. The guy who never asked me due to 2 things - I was Glaring at him, and also since I said withdraw into the savings books, he must think that's ok since it is still within the bank.

I am just pissed at this kind of treatment given!! Freaking discrimination!

No reason for me to deposit anymore monies to Maybank!

I am the second wife.

My Husband has another wife. Infact, I am the the second wife.

The three of us seemed really happy with the arrangement. One man, 2 wife...a happy family?

Then something happened, I went for a holiday and when I came back, things just were not the same. I've changed.

The three of us were watching TV on the bed. My hubby in the middle. The other woman on one side and me on another side. She had her leg on my hubby and hugging his body.

My hubby was holding my hands on my side.

Suddenly, I felt sad, Why am I in here? Why am I in this relationship? I need to leave, I need to run! I started crying.



Phew...it was just a dream.

Kudos to Anas Zubedy for daring to speak up.

This is the a full page ad bought by a fellow Malaysian in the STAR today. I am proud of a Malaysian called Anas Zubedy.

Dear Malaysian Politicians,

Please stop the power chase, call for a truce and focus on the economy.

I do not claim to speak on behalf of all Malaysians, but I have strong convictions that many share my sentiments. Our concern today is not who rules the country or heads the state governments but the looming bad economy.

Whether Barisan Nasional or Pakatan Rakyat leads, it is meaningless if Malaysians have no job to go to, no money to pay rent and no means to put food on the table.

I am a business owner, like other business owners and managers of corporations I have a responsibility to ensure people under my care and payroll continue to have jobs and a decent income to take home. We work hard and willing to go the extra mile to make sure our nation not only survive this crisis but come out stronger and wiser. We need your help.

Let me explain. I am in the business of Training, Development and Consultancy and have 20 people in my team.

Saedah is 42. She keeps the office clean and helps organise the training rooms. She has four children and her husband is unemployed. She was first hired on a part time basis, because she is very hard working and has a great attitude, we offered her a full time job to help provide a stable income for her family. Even then, when her third child started school this year, it was a struggle for her to buy new school uniforms and other necessities. Saedah lives on a ‘kais bulan, makan bulan’ basis, so, if she is jobless, her tap runs dry.

Samsuri is 27 years old. He lives with his sister and her family in a low cost government flat in Sunway. He does our despatch, helps with various clerical works and occasionally acts as a driver. During the first week at zubedy, we learned that he not only did not have money to buy new clothes and shoes for work, he had no money for lunch. Like Saedah, if he has no job, his tap runs dry too.

Alicia in Client Servicing turns 26 this year. She lives with her dad who is 71 years old and retired. Her mom passed away when she was little. Alicia is a hard-working team member, has a gentle caring outlook and fun to be with. (We like to poke fun at her as she blushes easily). Last May her dad went through a major operation, thank God he has recovered well. Alicia needs a job, both for herself and her dad.

Sudesh, 38, is one of our facilitators. When his father passed away last year, he moved back and lives with his mother in Seremban. He shuttles between Kuala Lumpur and Seremban daily, leaving home sometimes as early as 4 in the morning and returning late at night. He is no stranger to hard work and sacrifice, he knows what he needs to do to survive and to care for his mother, but he too needs a job.

Like fellow Malaysians, every one of us in zubedy needs employment, those that live from hand to mouth like Saedah and Samsuri and others like Alicia and Sudesh with family to care for. We Malaysians need the Malaysian economy to be strong. We need you, our leaders, to work hard and to work together to make our economy viable.

So this is my plea.

Pakatan Rakyat, please stop your attempts to take over the federal government and persuade BN’s lawmakers to join you. Stop all legal proceedings, no more 916 and let go, just let go. The nation can wait till the next general elections if they want change. By doing so, Malaysians will see your party as caring, unselfish and gracious and give you their support in the next elections.

Barisan Nasional, please stop any attempts to take over PR states and win over PR’s lawmakers. You have proven your point with Perak. The nation can wait for the next general elections if they want your party. Focus all your talent, energy and hard work in steering the country out of an economic downturn. By doing so, Malaysians will see your party as caring, unselfish and smart and give you their support in the next elections.

BN and PR! Call for a truce. Get together and compromise. Someone has to give in. Or has hate consumed your heart till it blinds you? You can do it. You have enough intelligent people between you. I am sure you can find solutions. Take the nation to heart. That is why you are in politics in the first place.

Focus on the people.

Focus on the economy.

Anas Zubedy
Managing DirectorZubedy (M) Sdn Bhd

Sigh....the strength of difference!

Honestly I am not a positive person. I am a practical person, I am a worrier. I am a planner and I like to plan ahead to make sure everything will be ok. I feel at times that can be perceived as not positive.

Because I am practical - I tend to face realities faster.
Because I am worrier - I tend to say the not so positives realities so that I will face it.
Because I like to plan ahead - I tend to be too "kan cheong" to get to the results.

A lot of people hate to face realities. Focus on the easy stuff, think of the heavy stuff later. For me, I would also want to avoid the reality but I know I can't. If I don't take control of the grim reality, it would not go away. It will still be there! and it will bite sooner or later.

I am scared. If I know there is trouble ahead, I want to make sure I put things in place so that I can fix it now. Not use other things to make the big issue seem smaller.


But I also believe there is a strength to being different. However you are, positive or negative, dreamer or practical, life will still go on, things will still turn out.

TAKE THE GOOD AND THROW AWAY THE BAD. HAVE FAITH!

I did it again

I can't help it. I tell myself everyday that I need to control my mouth but my mom just rubs me the wrong way. Everything she does and says just get on my nerves and I snap. I want to be the good daughter, to have mother and daughter bonding, support each other, have pleasant conversations, BUT my mom and I never had that. She scolded me all her life, she still does and now I scold her back. Everything she does is not pleasing to me. Frankly I do not have a good impression of her and thus I hate her every action. I get annoyed and I just snap and I will scold her.

Trust me, I know I am guilty. She is my mom, I cannot treat her this way.I am rude! I am really terrible. There is no excuse. I am guilty!

I will pray. I do want to be better. I have to rid of this resentment towards my mom. Forget the past. Let go of my anger. If I don't, I know I will regret one day.

My nasty mood

This weekend, I was in foul mood. Seriously foul mood. I was irritable and had this anger in my eyes. Since I am staying with mom, she took the brunt of it. Well...not that I am any better on other days...it has been always like that...me and mom- we just don't see eye to eye!

Of course it got worse since I am in a nasty mood. Everything she did wrong, I did not stop myself from letting her know. I was just mean and you could see the anger in my eyes.

My poor hubby also was not spared. He is the most patient man and I love him for that. He will try to cheer me up, he will talk and talk and talk just to distract me. I just grunt back! And if he siad something wrong...snap snap....that's how nasty I was.

Anyway the weekend is coming to an end, I am a bit better today...my mood is improving. I just want to say I am sorry!

Calculator and Shit...

Seriously, either I am sleeping too much or I am freaking bored.

It shows in my dreams.

Ok I was feeling kinda constipated. But yet my stomach is feeling bloated and uncomfortable. Not forgetting the explosive farts..or the silent killer farts that even I have to spare my nose of its misery.......

Anyway, here is what I dreamt :-

There were 3 of us. I can't remember who they are now but definitely my friends and me. I think we have been constipated for a few days now and we are kinda in agony. The shit wants to come out but it can't cos it stuck. The most bizzare thing is that, our a**holes are stuck...literally. So we have to slowly, push it out. (sorry that it is getting yucky...bear with me).

So there we were...probably in a clinic sitting next to each other and each pushing our shit out. You won't believe why our butt-holes are stuck. It is stuck with a calculator!!!!!!! So we have to slowly push the calculator out first to clear the channel..... for the shit!!

Dreams.....what can I say? There is nothing to say.

Sorry for slow entries for the past 2 month....The blog engine in me kinda stalled for a while. Went for a vacation :) but hopefully am back with full force.

The road me and hubby is on

Hubby back.

We had great fun, holiday, sex, makan-makan.

He became fat, I became fatter.

It was worth it. Diet time.

We have to be positive.

Separation yet again. We will have to face it, be strong for each other.

We need God. His grace, his direction.

When there is love, I give you my kidney. When love is lost, I want it back!

Happily ever after, till death do us part.

When everything is rosy and well in a marriage, a couple is one even with their body parts. But since divorce rate is so high, is it advisable to give your loved one a part of your body.

I just saw this news, and I thot it was so funny. The husband donated a kidney to his wife and now that they are going thru a divorce, he wants it back. I guess he has every right to but what he really wants is Money!! Yeah, he deserves a lot of money, after all he gave away his kidney....what do you think?

NY man demands estranged wife pay him for kidney

GARDEN CITY, N.Y. – A Long Island surgeon embroiled in a nearly four-year divorce proceeding wants his estranged wife to return the kidney he donated to her, although he says he'll settle for $1.5 million in compensation.
Dr. Richard Batista, a surgeon at Nassau University Medical Center, told reporters at his lawyer's Long Island office Wednesday that he decided to go public with his demand for kidney compensation because he has grown frustrated with the negotiations with his estranged wife.
He claimed he has been prevented from seeing their children, ages, 8, 11 and 14, for months at a time.
"This is my last resort; I did not want to do this publicly," Batista said.
He said he gave his kidney to Dawnell Batista, now 44, in June 2001. She filed for divorce in July 2005, although he claims she began having an extramarital affair 18 months to two years after receiving the kidney transplant, his attorney, Dominick Barbara said.
Douglas Rothkopf, the attorney representing Dawnell Batista, did not return telephone calls seeking comment.
Matrimonial attorneys were quick to shoot down any possibility Batista would succeed.
"I've been in this business over 40 years and I've never heard of that," said Seymour J. Reisman, a Long Island divorce lawyer. "It's not marital property, not a marital asset you can put a price tag on."
Manhattan attorney Susan Moss said, "The good doctor is out of luck and out a kidney. This is similar to cases where a husband wants to be repaid for the cost of breast implants and the such. Our judges are not willing to value such assets, so to speak."
Batista, 49, said he has no regrets about donating the kidney, only about the failed marriage. The couple was married in 1990 and lived in a million-dollar home in Massapequa. They met while he was working at a hospital and she was training to be a nurse.
He still recalls the day after the surgery took place.
"There is no greater feeling on this planet. As God is my witness, I felt as if I could put my arm around Jesus Christ. It was an unbelievable; I was walking on a cloud.
To this day I would still do it again."

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New Year Resolutions...why bother?

Happy New Year everyone.

Apologies for the silence, I have been hibernating from blogging to enjoy my Christmas and New Year holidays. But the real reason is that I was spending some quality no-blogging time with my hubby.

I had a great time during this holiday season, so much so that I did not even bother to make any new year resolutions. I used to do it every year, I make a list, and always promise myself I will be a better person in the new year and a list of other to do stuff.

After so many years, I realized that it is not about making a list of "new year resolutions". We do not need a special date to make a resolution. A resolution can be made anytime!

And if you are committed to make that resolution happen, it will happen.

If not, it will just be another resolution made because it is " a new year" but it does not get done. You will probably do it for one or 2 weeks and then you would forget all about it.

So, I have stopped making new year resolutions. No point making resolutions that I would not keep.

Have you made any resolutions for 2009? Since it is day 6, any progress....?