Is money more important or is love more important?

Which is more important, Love or Money? What is your answer?

The idealistic answer is love.
The realistic answer is money.

Sometimes life is not as straightforward. Even for the most idealistic person, there will be circumstances that make the person choose money.

Let me give you a scenario.

Girl and Boy are childhood sweethearts. They grew up in a small town and then went to KL to live and work. The girl advances much faster in her career than the boy. Boy struggles to keep a steady job. He feels disillusioned, although he tries hard but it seems like luck is just not on his side. Meanwhile his girl advances up in her career and mixes with the corporate and professional people. Boy does not fit in to the crowd. Girl’s boss takes on interested on her and pursues her. He is stable, doing well in career and provides the security that Boy does not have. While she loves Boy now, she also feel they have drifted apart and she is thinking of her future. She also believes that he will eventually succeed but just that it is not happening now. She may not love her boss as much but she feels she can grow to love him for he is a good man.

So, should she be realistic or idealistic?

Should she choose money and stability?

Or should she stay put with a struggling man all because of love?

What are your views?

Bra for the boys - an online bestseller in Japan

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This new I picked up from Yahoo News. The Japanese are always bizzare so it does not surprise me.


TOKYO (Reuters) – Who said bras are only for women? A Japanese online lingerie retailer is selling bras for cross-dressing men and they've quickly become one of its most popular items.
Since launching two weeks ago on Rakuten, a major Japanese web shopping mall, the Wishroom shop has sold over 300 men's bras for 2,800 yen ($30) each. The shop also stocks men's panties, as well as lingerie for women.


"I like this tight feeling. It feels good," Wishroom representative Masayuki Tsuchiya told Reuters as he modeled the bra, which can be worn discreetly under men's clothing.
Wishroom Executive Director Akiko Okunomiya said she was surprised at the number of men who were looking for their inner woman.


"I think more and more men are becoming interested in bras. Since we launched the men's bra, we've been getting feedback from customers saying 'wow, we'd been waiting for this for such a long time'," she said.


But the bra, available in black, pink and white, is not an easy sell for all men.


The underwear has stirred a heated debate online with more than 8,000 people debating the merits of men wearing bras in one night on Mixi, Japan's top social network website.




News from Yahoo.

Air Stewardess - Bimbo waitresses in the air

Yup I am talking about air stewardess. So do you think that the MAS and SIA air stewardess practice double standard? They treat the “gwailo” with extra attention, special care and extra attentiveness. But the treat the locals like dirt. Ok probably not like dirt but they are just not as attentive.

It irritates me. No matter what, a super rich person and a not so rich person both paid the same fare to board the plane. Just because it is an old lady or she does not speak English doesn’t make her any less. Just because I am your colour, doesn’t mean you can ignore my request.


Your job is to provide a service in the plane. And the service include attending to the needs of your clients (all the passengers in the plane). That is your job. Your best contribution to your clients is that you bring water and you bring food. That is just your job! Just do the best you can and don’t bother smiling more to that "gwailo", he is not going to tip you!

The funny things is that I experience total opposite when I board a Japan or Korean airline. They are super attentive to their own people. It is almost they are proud to be serving their own people and they want to help out as much as they can.

Why can’t out MAS and SIA ladies be more like that? Are they not proud of their countrymen??

Joke of The Day : Asian Student

This is hilarious! You gotta read this!

Asian Student

It was the first day of a school in Virginia and a new student from India named Chandrasekhar Subramanian entered the fourth grade.

The teacher said, "Let's begin by reviewing some American History. Who said "Give me Liberty , or give me Death"?

She saw a sea of blank faces, except for Chandrasekhar, who had his hand up: "Patrick Henry, 1775" he said.

"Very good! "Who said "Government of the People, by the People, for the People, shall not perish from the Earth?"

Again, no response except from Chandrasekhar. "Abraham Lincoln, 1863" said Chandrasekhar.

The teacher snapped at the class, "Class, you should be ashamed. Chandrasekhar from India, who is new to our country, knows more about itshistory than you do."

She heard a loud whisper: "Fuck the Indians," "Who said that?" she demanded.

Chandrasekhar put his hand up."General Custer, 1862. "

At that point, a student in the back said, "I'm gonna puke."

The teacher glares around and asks "All right! Now, who said that?"

Again, Chandrasekhar says, "George Bush Senior to the Japanese Prime Minister,1991."

Now furious, another student yells, "Oh yeah? Suck this!"

Chandrasekhar jumps out of his chair waving his hand and shouts to theteacher , "Bill Clinton, to Monica Lewinsky, 1997!"

Now with almost mob hysteria someone said "You little shit. If you say anything else, I'll kill you."

Chandrasekhar frantically yells at the top of his voice, " Michael Jackson to the child witnesses testifying against him- 2004."

The teacher fainted.

And as the class gathered around the teacher onthe floor, someone said, "Oh shit, we're fucked!"

And Chandrasekhar said quietly, I think it was George W. Bush, Iraq , 2007."

Charlize Theron chasing after my husband for sex?

My hubby must have read my naughty dream blog posting. Click here. Because just this morning he told me this.

"Guess what? I dreamt Charlize Theron was chasing after me, she was chasing after me!!!" he said.

The first thing one my mind (as you can see it is a naughty mind) was he said that Charlize Theron was chasing after him for sex!! So I thot, I dreamt about naughty stuff and my hubby also did and it's with Charlize Theron!! What's this?!!

But then he went on to say " She was chasing after me because I have a secret formula in a bottle, I was running away to hide the bottle"

Ohhhh....typical of my hubby, his dreams are always action-packed.

"She was running and chasing after me, I had to run really fast. We came to a warehouse, there was no where to hide. So, I swallowed the bottle. But actually, I only swallowed the cap. Ouch, it was painful to my throat."

Dream ended.

Not bad eh....it was quite an exciting dream!

Sexy breasts leading to some action in changing room

Naughty Dream.


I was in a lingerie shop trying out bras. My hubby was with me. Anyway, even though he was my hubby but he has morphed into this HK actor Bowie Lam - please don't ask me why ok!

So, I was trying out a black lacy bra. Suddenly I felt a bit naughty and I wanted a little action with my hubby in the changing room. There were voices outside and we got a little worried. Dream ended.

Potong steam man!!


Dreams will be dreams. You never understand them. Arrrgh!! I was probably just horny last night.

Money Money Money

Why can't people part with money?

What more if the money is not theirs?

If the money is not yours eg borrowed, then why is it so difficult for you to give it back?

It was never yours in the first place!

I don't understand but money is just a funny thing, make people do and say crazy things.

Lost and nobody bothers

Dream -


I was back in my old primary school. There were many little boys and girls playing around. There was a gossip going around that a little boy was lost. He apparently ran away. Everyone were just talking about it and then 10 minutes later, they just went about their own business, playing, running around.

I went for a walk around the school compound. Some kids were standing around a big hole on the ground, like a hole leading to the huge underground pipes. Everyone was saying the boy is down there. I had a vision that the boy is alone, lonely and sad and he is just sitting inside the pipes waiting for someone to rescue him. He was feeling really sad and just did not know how to face the world. Everyone around the pipes just looked around and then decided that there is nothing they can do so they all left. Somehow, this was exactly what the boy was afraid of - people abandoning him because he was pathetic. He has just proved himself right.

I woke up, the dream was still vivid in my mind. I was wondering why I dreamt that dream and initially I thot it was just one of those random, not related to anything kinda dream. Then I realized where that dream came from.

Earlier today, I received an email from a guy friend. He is single even though he is way into his 30s, and he is feeling sad and pathetic. He is feeling disillusioned about life and finding his life partner. He feels his friends are abandoning him and furthermore, he is still staying with his parents with just an average career. He sounded sad and I felt sad for him. I have not responded to the email.

Hmmm...maybe I should..soon.

Things I see in my evening walk...

I have been doing evening walks in the park near my house. I usually go about 7pm and will be back before 8pm. Usually when I walk out, it is still a bit bright but as I come back, it is already dark at night.


I truly enjoy my evening walks. Even though I am alone and I don't talk to anyone but it is so nice to see people around the park, familiar faces that I see every evening in the park.


My park consists of a walking trail, a children's playgroung and a big tennis court. It is a mid sized park whereby you get to see the whole park at a glance.


There will be a group of elderly ladies (40, 50+ yrs old) chit-chatting, sitted on the benches. As I walk my rounds, I can catch glimpse of conversations about shows on TV, different kinds of food, family issues etc.


There will be men and women who walks the trail. Some would be jogging but mostly would be walking. Some are couples and they hold hands as they take a slow walk. Such a beautiful sight!


I see many elderly men and women walk the trail and I feel so proud that they can do it.


At the playground, some moms and dads would be watching over their kids play the slides and swings. But mostly, the maids would be the one accompanying the kids.


Mothers would be chatting about their kids.


In the court, some boys would be playing basketball, or training martial arts and sometimes even line dancing.


There are so many activities happening and I am never bored when I walk the park.


It is nice to appreciate simple things in life.

Worry

Sometimes I wonder why God put us on earth. There are so many worries in the world and sometimes it seems that we can never escape from being worried. If you see someone who seem happy go lucky in the outside, would you ever know what is going in his inside? There is bound to be a worry in his mind too.



I feel like I have spent my life worrying about one thing after another. And I I grow older, there seems to be more to worry about.


When I was a teenager, I worry if I will ever make friends in school.


I worry if I will do well in my exams.


I worry if I will be able to enter university.


When I have all that, there are just more to worry about.


I worry if I will get a good job.


Then I worry if I will lose my job.


When I am single, I worry if I will ever get married.


When I am married, I worry that I married too late.


I worry that I am too old to have kids when some of my friends have already "closed shop"!


I worry about finances.


I worry about my health.


I worry about my parents.


In, out, in, out.....there are just so many things to worry about.


Don't you wish sometimes that you are a kid again, so young, so carefree without a care in the world except when to get his next ice-cream?!

When your heart is not satisfied

My mom requested for a night cream. This is a small request but why did I react?

This is the reason. I went to her room and took our all the facial creams that I have given her all these years. Olay, SK-II, Loreal etc more than 20 bottles of unused facial creams are in her room. I laid it all down on her bed.

There was even an SK-II night cream which she requested for probably 5 years ago. I bought it for her. Now, it is still unopened.

Do you know why it frustrates me? I feel that she is not self satisfied. She keep looking at the things that she thinks she does not have. That is why she is not satisfied with anything that I do for her. She just keep scolding me for the things that she thinks I did not do.

But, she does not appreciate all the things that have been done for her. And that is the problem I have with her. Why does she keep focusing on the negatives? When I go out with my friends, she is not happy cos she thinks I treat my friends better. She accuses me of always buying my friends presents, buy them dinner etc with no real proof.

But why does she not look at the times I took her out for dinners, all the things that I bought for her, bought for the house??

I bought her a perfume for her birthday a few weeks ago. I really thought that she does not have a good perfume cos she was using this male smelling perfume when she goes out. In my search to take out all the facial creams, I saw that she still have more than 5 bottles of unused perfume, even one that I bought from Europe about 4 years ago.

I told her, I can buy anything that she lacks, that is my duty as a daughter but if she has more than enough, I am sorry, I will not buy cos I don't want my money wasted on things that she will not use. These items cannot be kept for long. It has maturity date and the product will spoil. I don't want to throw hundreds of dollars down the drain.

I don't know why she is like that. Maybe she is getting old and not feeling the security. But I attribute it to her heart. She is not satisfied with what she has. Therefore she can't see the good things but is just focused on the things that she think she lacks.

I really dislike the attitude, I have been trying to tell her, "be satisfied with what you have, you will be happier"

Why I write about my mom?

I have been ranting about my mom. Sometimes I feel like I am really immature and such a bad person. How can I be writing negative things about my own mom?

Firstly, I would like to qualify that I love my mom very much. But if you have been reading my past postings, you will be familiar that my mom and I are not in the best of relationships. It is not that we hate each other but it is more like we tick each other off all the time. So for years, it has been one shouting match after another.

From small to now, she is always scolding me about one thing after another. This has grown to become resentment from me. So now, I attack her back. If she scold me, I will attack and I will attack her for the things that she does wrong. My irritation of her is at the highest.

I know I need to resolve this anger within me. I need to be the agent of change and not let this continue. Therefore I am choosing to express myself in my blog. I want to remember all these things. I want to remind myself that I should not do these things to my children.

I am aware that I would probably end up like my mom, but I don't want that to happen. So when I write about my mom, it is for me to let out the anger and frustration. But it is also that I document what she did and what I did so that it can be a lesson for me in future when I am old and don't realize that I am acting ridiculous.

Why I don't write about Malaysian politics?

This is the reason why! Enuff said. Get it??


A country whereby the law is already decided by political connections. Everyone knew the outcome of this. Why bother going to court? Is democracy just for show but not really practiced?


Many a times I wanted to write about Malaysian politics but I somehow never finish any political postings. It is got too disturbing and infact I think more so, too embarrasing for Malaysia.


5xmom had a point, but I admit, I don't care enough to make a stand.

Spiderman in action on my wall

Men are really creative. I thot this was such a simple and creative invention. I don't need any camera tricks for this.

Such a cheap and amazing toy. Brought out the kid in me!!


Do you know how they made this? Guess!!

I need to let go of my anger

It's funny how my mom is angry at my grandmother but my mom also cares for my grandmother a lot.

As for me, I am angry at my mom and yet I care about her a lot. So I am turning out exactly like my mom, right?

I am also irritated with my grandmother. Due to her actions, she has made a lot of people distance from her. But bless her soul, she is not a bad person. Just some of her actions, eventually make people dislike her.

I see the same traits in my mom.

So I am angry at both my mom and my grandmother.

Do I fear I will end up like them? Hell, I am!!! BUT, I know I don't want to and I will make sure it does not happen. I am aware! I know what I need to do.

However, by being angry at them (they just can tick me off, like a match) I am just being exactly like them. I need to change, I need to bring out the softer side of me. Why am I being like them?

Only God can help me, soften my heart. Change me!

I am getting old

It is sad and I do fear. Why is my body betraying me?

First is the stupid dark spot on my face that has grown bigger and then 2 additional smaller ones appeared.

Next, my fingers are stiff when I wake up.

The best of it now is that my knees are giving up on me too. It has this discomfort, a little pain and best of all it is both my knees.

I do have a lot of fear, I can't believe it is happening to me. There is still so much I have not done. I am afraid.

Maybe this is my retribution from my mom to me.

Another Toilet Dream

It is really strange but I think a lot of my dreams revolves around me being in the toilet. I really wonder why. Maybe it is because my bladder is full while I am sleeping. You think that could be the reason?

Here's was what I dreamt yesterday.

I went into the ladies toilet. Somehow I am always doing some else in the toilet other than what I technically supposed to be doing. This time, I was on the phone talking and I was sitting very comfortably on the toilet bowl. Imagine it looks like a "toilet bowl sofa" cos it almost feels like it has soft seats and corners. Suddenly someone walked in. It was a really really tall back guy. I could see his face and he could see me in the toilet. The is an opening at the top of the toilet door and an opening at the bottom too. So I could see his shoes and also his head looking into me sitting on my toilet bowl. That's how tall he was.

What is he doing in the ladies toilet????? It was really strange. Then he went out. I finished my phone conversation and went out of the toilet. The toilet turned out to be a mens toilet. What's this??

Dream ended.

Why I dreamt of toilet - I really don't know. But the black guy - I could attribute it to Obama's presidential victory this week. As for me going into the men's toilet - hmm..you tell me?!!

I am angry at my mom

How do I get rid of this feelings?

It is not that I am mistreating my mom or anything. We stay under the same roof and just like any other mother and daughter. The only difference is that we have a very hostile relationship.

She brought me up by scolding me. Constantly dissatisfied with what I do. Despite me being a great student with scholarship, have a great job, my mother is still my mother. I know she is proud of me but in front of me, she is still the same. She is constantly looking out for my faults and scolding me for it.

I can't say that I hate my mom. Infact, I do care for her. But I have become just like her. I will find faults with her now. I will scold her about everything. It is almost like my revenge. But it is not I am doing it purposely but I have become this person. This person who has an automatic reaction to disagree with everything that she does. I am just so pissed whenever she opens her mouth. I am just angry at her.

How do I get rid of this anger? It is very unhealthy and I am like such a bad child. But I am not. I care for her and my dad. I will do anything for them. But, I just can't stopped treating her the way she has been treating me.

I know I don't want to end up like my mother but I am becoming exactly like her. So far, I only treat her that way. I don't do that to anyone else. I pray that I don't treat my kids this way.

But in everything that we do, there will be retribution.

It is probably my mom's retribution for bringing me up the way she did. And I will get my retribution for treating my mom this way.

I just need to get rid of this anger. This anger that is just associated with my mom. I must let go off all the anger that has bottled up for far too many years. But how? It almost feel that it is embedded in me. Everytime I tell myself I will be better tomorrow, but when my mom says something or starts nagging me, I snapped.

This is a generation curse. My grandma is exactly like my that and my mom has also a lot of bottled anger towards her. But my mom is also the only one that is really taking care of my grandma. It is almost like a love and hate relationship. My mom and I are developing into the same type of relationship.

I know I have to be the agent of change and break the curse. I cannot continue down the path of my grandma and mom. I have to be the one that stops it.

Obama - The change is here!

I am glad Obama won. I think the world is glad that Obama won.

Did you hear his victory speech? Oh wow! Goosebumps, teary eyes..I felt it all just listening to the speech. He is one of the special ones that could inspire people in this way. It is amazing.

"If there is anyone out there who still doubts that America is a place where all things are possible; who still wonders if the dream of our founders is alive in our time; who still questions the power of our democracy, tonight is your answer."

That was his opening statement. Wow!

He addressed everyone in his speech, his wife, his kids, his grandma, his VP, his campaign manager, his strategist, his whole campaign team, the oldest voter, his supporters, McCain, Palin, and people who did not vote for him, he acknowledged everyone. Truly history in making. He is a truly inspiring leader.

Now, it would be time to see him in action. I pray that he will deliver!

If you want to hear the speech, which I do urge you to, please click here. Sorry I am too lazy to paste the video up and since I saw it on this blog, do go and watch. Trust me you will be inspired.

I had another outburst

I don't know why. It can't be PMS cos my period is just over. Maybe I am just feeling a bit down about my life. So, I am taking it out on people around me.

I am very contented with my life and I am a very happy person. But this thing with my mom is a never ending battle and I think I have a lot of pent-up frustration. Thus, I guess I can't really let go of the past of who's right and who's wrong. There is still a lot of anger in me and she can so easily trigger it. She is still the same and when she triggers it, she will bring back all the memories about what I think she has done wrong to me.

In her eyes, she probably think I have done a lot of things wrong. That is why she treat me the way she has. And I know she has done it out of love.

But no matter how much I know it and but I still can't change the way I react to her. I can't change and erase my anger and dissatisfaction with the history we had because in my eyes she has done it wrong. And I am very vicious when I have my outburst.

Today, unfortunately my dad has to take the brunt of my outburst.

I feel better now but I could really feel all my anger (a mountain of it) during my outburst. It was quite scary.

He is most patient and I am the b*tch

I must always remind myself that my hubby is most patient with me. No matter how much tantrums I throw, how many times I am not in the mood to talk, how self righteous I am, he is always patient and will always be there first.

He is most patient, most loving man. He always says sorry first. I love him.

I am the b*tch. That's reality.

Money is the root of all evil

Who created this thing called money?

It is probably the best invention and yet it is the worst invention for mankind.

Our lives now are determined by money.

What we eat?, where we live?, what we buy? are all determined by money.

Money make the world go round...so the saying goes.

But money is also the root of all evil. It is amazing how people change because of money. Strangers, friends, and even family members. There are so many stories of what extent people would go to to get money.

Look at beggars in the street who would hurt themselves, break their hands, legs so they can beg for money. Family who will go against each other for money. Friends who are now enemies because of money.

Why have we let this thing called money rule us this way? If you have money, everything is ok but when you don't have money that is when everything changes.

Have humankind become slaves for money?