The dislike crept in

You met a new friend. You hit it off.

What more he is the best friend of someone very important to you.

Life is great. All 3 of you.

Then something happened.

An incident small to many but irritated you.

Nothing was confronted. Things could get back to normal.

But the dislike has crept in.

The two of them are still fine. Best buddies for ages. Where does that leave you?

Swallow your dislike and just pretend everything is ok.

All 3 happily ever after?

Sigh...Too bad, this is the battle that you have to fight. Alone.

Toilet Paper when you need it

You are done, You look up and went "Uh oh!!

Isn't that the worst nightmare?!!

What do you do?? Sigh!!

There is always a savior!! I opened a cabinet right beside me and behold... Toilet paper!

Bless my wonderful husband for putting it there!

Thank you for the umbrella

May '09 - seriously??


The sun was still shining hot at 6pm.

I decided to work my lazy body by walking up my favourite hill path.

As I was getting out of my car, something reminded me about taking my umbrella.

Pride voice - "No need-la! So troublesome! The sun is shining. It won't rain! Furthermore, it is so uncool to walk with an umbrella. You will look like an auntie."

Humility voice - "Just take it, just in case! How troublesome can it be? Furthermore can use as protection from"

I walked up the hill.

It rained.

I am glad I decided to be uncool. I have an umbrella over my head.

Waiting for death??!!

Just because I am not doing anything doesn't mean I am waiting for death.

Such a nonsense remark. I can only say, keep your jealousy to yourself. Pityful.

But then again, I cannot control what others want to say.

They can say whatever they want. It does not have to affect me.

As long as I am happy doing nothing, what's is it to you?

I can only say...Don't envy me because you have no choice but to do something.

I made a choice to do nothing.

Snake in your dreams - You want SEX!

Did you know that if you dreamt of a snake, this means that you are in need of sex?

I did not know that. I had a scary snake dream. Woke up and told my hubby. He said he dreamt of a snake too.

Had tea with a girlfriend and told her about my scary snake dream.

The first thing she said "You should not tell people if you dreamt of snakes"!

I was like " Oh No! Don't tell me, some bad omen stuff right! Something bad is gonna happen to me!!! Oh No! Oh No!

She went " Oh! Don't worry! It just means you want sex! So better not tell people that right!! :)

I went "Oh really! My hubby dreamt of snakes too. Fantastic, we both want SEX!"

I am angry but I choose to feel pitiful for her

I think my boss is feeling totally threatened by me. That can be the only explanation with her current outburst which is totally left me dumbfounded.

I confronted her immediately and the excuse she gave was even more puzzling. To the point of ridiculous.

Actually I was really pissed. These are the things that make you not want to go to work, having your boss attack you openly.

But then I choose to pity her. I choose to feel sorry for her insecurity. Cos only she knows that she has acted in a ridiculous way but she will never admit openly.

So I choose to pity her and I hope she can live with herself.

A Blow Kiss... :)

I am not sure how to feel. Sweet or funny?

One morning on the way to office, I saw a collegue of mine got out of a car in front of the office. She is in her mid twenties, a sweet looking girl.

The guy, obviously her boyfriend looked pretty much looked like a nice guy too. He gave a soft little honk as she turned away.

She turned back to him and guess what, she gave him a gentle blow kiss.

Hmmm, there I was...."stunned a little", "arrrr....so sweeet"..."OMG this is so funny" - these were all the thoughts that ran thru my head.

I was still very amused the whole morning and everytime I see her now, I have a little smile on my face.

When kids does it...arrr....it is so cute and sweet. But when a grown up do it to another grown up...errrr...I don't know how to feel! :)

When the other woman turns out to be a man!!

Seriously, I really don't know what the world is becoming to. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against gay people - I have many friends who are gay. But, I wish there is a straight line to determine if you are here or there, men or women, yes or no. When there is ambiquity, that's when life gets a lot more complicated.

What would you do if you found out that your husband is having affair with another man? Or vice verse - Your wife is making love to another woman? Ironic, shocking or has this become so common that it is just another piece of news??

I heard this from The Star today. Sigh.

A 30-year-old woman who suspected her businessman husband of having an affair was shocked to discover that her rival was actually a man.

Sin Chew Daily reported yesterday that the woman had hired a private investigator to tail her husband after noticing a change in his attitude towards her.

According to the daily, the husband and his lover who has long flowing hair had gone to a secluded spot by the dockyard in Singapore to make out.

Upon being notified by the investigator, identified as Leong, the wife rushed to the scene hoping to catch the two of them in the act.

At the dockyard, Leong said he and the wife saw the car seat being lowered and the couple started to hug and kiss each other.

The wife ran to the car searching for the woman but could not find her.
She then asked Leong about the “woman” he saw in her husband’s car.

Puzzled, the investigator went over to check and was shocked to discover that the only two persons in the vehicle were men.

It turned out that the man’s lover was actually a cross-dresser, who was wearing a wig.

According to Leong, the husband would pick up a woman with long hair after work every day.

I woke up this morning and thought it was Monday

Have you encountered this before?

I woke up this morning and I was dead sure that it was Monday and I had to get ready for work.

I was thinking thru the meetings I had for the day and what I needed to accomplish. And I did not want to get out of bed.

I was like...what happened this weekend? Where did my weekend go? How come I did not do this and that and that......

errr....it is not Monday...it is still Sunday!!!!!!

Hurray! Great...I went back to sleep...yawn.

I hope this happens tomorrow too..

I need to fix my IBS

Will explain that later....

Just want to remind myself I must change my eating habit next week. It must start and it all starts next week!

I must do it...will plan over the weekend.

Cheer me on...

I wanna bitch about my boss

Can't help it! Just need to let out!

A boss who can't let go of the work

A boss who don't enable his/her people

A boss who wants does things before letting other know in order to take glory for him/herself

A boss who think seniority is more important than talent

A boss who feels threatened when you are better

A boss who's hairstyle is from a decade ago

A boss who does not sleep and works all the time and don't hesitate to tell the whole world about it.

You better agree with everthing that your boss says...then your life would be easy.

Banks are double faced pigs!!!

I had a revelation today. I finally see how banks actually treat their customer. If you are there to deposit monies, you get first priority and if you are there to withdraw, you will get last priority.


How did I know this? Here is my story for today....


I am not a big time business person, I don't have millions in the bank BUT I do not expect to be discriminated by the financial insitution called the bank!


Well, my banking transactions are pretty limited since I see banks as a means for savings. Therefore mostly ATMs to withdraw monies and when I enter the bank it is usually to deposit. Even now, I can deposit cheques and cash thru the machine so as much as possible, there is little time spent actually seeing a teller. Therefore, only when I deposit a FD, I will actually do a transaction via a teller.


Frankly, I must say that Maybank have improved their services, especially on time spent waiting TREMENDOUSLY. Years ago, one have to wait for 30 mins - 1 hour for any transaction but nowadays, it is amazingly fast. You tell the reception what you want to get done, she will advice if you need to fill up a form or not, and then you will be given a ticket number. At certain branches, and in particular this one that I usually go to...the tellers are upstairs. So amazingly, everytime I am given a number, I walk upstairs and nearly 99% of the time, before even I reach upstairs, my numbers would be called. Amazing right?!! Superb service right?!!


Until today! I really see the double face of Maybank!!


I decided to withdraw one of my FD today from Maybank. The reason simple - rumours that Maybank is not doing well and everyone is saying don't out all your eggs into the Maybank basket. Anyway, I decided to diversify and probably deposit some monies in other banks.


As usual, I went to the reception, and told them it is a FD transation. She asked me deposit or withdraw. I said withdraw, she gave me a ticket.


I rushed upstairs knowing that my number would be called since I am the next number on the ticket - 40xx


I reached upstairs and this time no "ting" for my number. So I waited for a while.


Strange...how come at least 3 tellers are not serving anybody but they did not "ting" for my number. Ok never mind, maybe for my transations, it is with the other tellers who are busy right now.


I stood there and waited. The tellers were still free, other tellers became available and yet they did not "ting" me.

"What's happening?"!!!!!

The "ting"...oh..it's not my number, they ting for 10xx. Then I saw a lady just managed to reach to the floor from downstairs and went straight to the teller.

They "ting" for at least another 7 new people who just walked in.

Can you imagine how I felt? I was fuming!!!! What the heck???!!!!

What the f*ck??!!! I was ready to walk to the counter and confront one of the tellers.

Then one of the manager from the back of the teller walked to the counter and "ting" my number.

I walked up and glared at him. He was a little taken aback.

I gave him my FD and a bank book and said withdraw and put into my savings account. He looked like he wanted to ask me a question but he could see I was fuming so he took my FD and asked me to wait while he process.

I told myself to stay calm and not to pick a fight. I will hold my tongue today!

Basically this is what happened. People who wants to withdraw monies is given the number starting 40xx. I suspect that the tellers are not supposed to "ting" these numbers but their supervisors are supposed to attend. Therefore, even though all tellers are free, my number was not "ting". The supervisor was supposed to question and ask why people want to withdraw. The guy who never asked me due to 2 things - I was Glaring at him, and also since I said withdraw into the savings books, he must think that's ok since it is still within the bank.

I am just pissed at this kind of treatment given!! Freaking discrimination!

No reason for me to deposit anymore monies to Maybank!

Kudos to Anas Zubedy for daring to speak up.

This is the a full page ad bought by a fellow Malaysian in the STAR today. I am proud of a Malaysian called Anas Zubedy.

Dear Malaysian Politicians,

Please stop the power chase, call for a truce and focus on the economy.

I do not claim to speak on behalf of all Malaysians, but I have strong convictions that many share my sentiments. Our concern today is not who rules the country or heads the state governments but the looming bad economy.

Whether Barisan Nasional or Pakatan Rakyat leads, it is meaningless if Malaysians have no job to go to, no money to pay rent and no means to put food on the table.

I am a business owner, like other business owners and managers of corporations I have a responsibility to ensure people under my care and payroll continue to have jobs and a decent income to take home. We work hard and willing to go the extra mile to make sure our nation not only survive this crisis but come out stronger and wiser. We need your help.

Let me explain. I am in the business of Training, Development and Consultancy and have 20 people in my team.

Saedah is 42. She keeps the office clean and helps organise the training rooms. She has four children and her husband is unemployed. She was first hired on a part time basis, because she is very hard working and has a great attitude, we offered her a full time job to help provide a stable income for her family. Even then, when her third child started school this year, it was a struggle for her to buy new school uniforms and other necessities. Saedah lives on a ‘kais bulan, makan bulan’ basis, so, if she is jobless, her tap runs dry.

Samsuri is 27 years old. He lives with his sister and her family in a low cost government flat in Sunway. He does our despatch, helps with various clerical works and occasionally acts as a driver. During the first week at zubedy, we learned that he not only did not have money to buy new clothes and shoes for work, he had no money for lunch. Like Saedah, if he has no job, his tap runs dry too.

Alicia in Client Servicing turns 26 this year. She lives with her dad who is 71 years old and retired. Her mom passed away when she was little. Alicia is a hard-working team member, has a gentle caring outlook and fun to be with. (We like to poke fun at her as she blushes easily). Last May her dad went through a major operation, thank God he has recovered well. Alicia needs a job, both for herself and her dad.

Sudesh, 38, is one of our facilitators. When his father passed away last year, he moved back and lives with his mother in Seremban. He shuttles between Kuala Lumpur and Seremban daily, leaving home sometimes as early as 4 in the morning and returning late at night. He is no stranger to hard work and sacrifice, he knows what he needs to do to survive and to care for his mother, but he too needs a job.

Like fellow Malaysians, every one of us in zubedy needs employment, those that live from hand to mouth like Saedah and Samsuri and others like Alicia and Sudesh with family to care for. We Malaysians need the Malaysian economy to be strong. We need you, our leaders, to work hard and to work together to make our economy viable.

So this is my plea.

Pakatan Rakyat, please stop your attempts to take over the federal government and persuade BN’s lawmakers to join you. Stop all legal proceedings, no more 916 and let go, just let go. The nation can wait till the next general elections if they want change. By doing so, Malaysians will see your party as caring, unselfish and gracious and give you their support in the next elections.

Barisan Nasional, please stop any attempts to take over PR states and win over PR’s lawmakers. You have proven your point with Perak. The nation can wait for the next general elections if they want your party. Focus all your talent, energy and hard work in steering the country out of an economic downturn. By doing so, Malaysians will see your party as caring, unselfish and smart and give you their support in the next elections.

BN and PR! Call for a truce. Get together and compromise. Someone has to give in. Or has hate consumed your heart till it blinds you? You can do it. You have enough intelligent people between you. I am sure you can find solutions. Take the nation to heart. That is why you are in politics in the first place.

Focus on the people.

Focus on the economy.

Anas Zubedy
Managing DirectorZubedy (M) Sdn Bhd

Sigh....the strength of difference!

Honestly I am not a positive person. I am a practical person, I am a worrier. I am a planner and I like to plan ahead to make sure everything will be ok. I feel at times that can be perceived as not positive.

Because I am practical - I tend to face realities faster.
Because I am worrier - I tend to say the not so positives realities so that I will face it.
Because I like to plan ahead - I tend to be too "kan cheong" to get to the results.

A lot of people hate to face realities. Focus on the easy stuff, think of the heavy stuff later. For me, I would also want to avoid the reality but I know I can't. If I don't take control of the grim reality, it would not go away. It will still be there! and it will bite sooner or later.

I am scared. If I know there is trouble ahead, I want to make sure I put things in place so that I can fix it now. Not use other things to make the big issue seem smaller.


But I also believe there is a strength to being different. However you are, positive or negative, dreamer or practical, life will still go on, things will still turn out.

TAKE THE GOOD AND THROW AWAY THE BAD. HAVE FAITH!

New Year Resolutions...why bother?

Happy New Year everyone.

Apologies for the silence, I have been hibernating from blogging to enjoy my Christmas and New Year holidays. But the real reason is that I was spending some quality no-blogging time with my hubby.

I had a great time during this holiday season, so much so that I did not even bother to make any new year resolutions. I used to do it every year, I make a list, and always promise myself I will be a better person in the new year and a list of other to do stuff.

After so many years, I realized that it is not about making a list of "new year resolutions". We do not need a special date to make a resolution. A resolution can be made anytime!

And if you are committed to make that resolution happen, it will happen.

If not, it will just be another resolution made because it is " a new year" but it does not get done. You will probably do it for one or 2 weeks and then you would forget all about it.

So, I have stopped making new year resolutions. No point making resolutions that I would not keep.

Have you made any resolutions for 2009? Since it is day 6, any progress....?

I feel old and its sucks

I just feel old and it sucks.

I can’t help it but I have just been feeling old all the time, I think since I got married last year.

I put on make up – I feel old
I dress up – I feel old
I check my face in the mirror - I feel old
I look at my body - I feel old
I talk to my collegues - I feel old
I hang out with friends - I feel old

I think I am fat, thus I feel old.

Hmmm....sigh....do you understand?

A vision is to be caught not taught

Sorry, feeling a little philosophical this evening.

A good friend...told me this phrase "A vision is to be caught Not taught". I don't think even she realized what she said, but when I heard it, it was such a revelation.

Basically I was complaning about how my hubby is not excited about my interest. I am so passionate about it, there are so many things I want him to do and help me with but it almost seem like he is just going against me. And it is very frustrating!

Especially when I feel that what I am doing will be better for our future. At least we are doing something vs just doing nothing.

But how come he is so slow in his actions? How come we seem to argue everytime we talk about it? I get irritated that I am doing 80% of the work and yet he can't do 20% of the work promptly.

Anyway, so when my friend suddenly said this phrase....hmmm, I was like...wow! I get it. No point telling, teaching, repeating a thousand times what the vision is because if the person don't get it, have not caught it, it will just be yes yes yes yes yes yes - in one ear, out the other.

So...the challenge is to have the person catch the vision. Once the person caught the vision, then the vision is no longer just yours. It becomes a shared vision.

Am I making sense??

This cup of Starbucks nearly knocked me OUT!

It is depressing but I may have to succumb to the fact that I can no longer be the cool coffee drinker at Starbucks.


I love to have morning meetings at Starbucks. Getting out of the office is good but meeting my suppliers in Starbuckks in the morning not only is casual but also builds a strong and closer relationship with them.


So, this morning, feel rather cool, I had yet another morning meeting in the Starbucks. My usual Vanilla Latte.


The meeting went well!


As I was driving back.....I started feeling a little uncomfortable. It felt like a headache was coming.


I went into office. Took a couple of gulps of water to wash down the caffeine. Hope I will be feeling better.


Went into a 2 hour meeting. My heart started throbbing.


Hmmm...it is 2pm, maybe I was just hungry. But at that time, I was feeling really uncomfortable. Let me get some food into my stomach.


Had another telecon but I was ready to zonk out.


I need to leave the office. I need to rest my head.


Oh goodness! Got into car, trying hard to hold my head....3pm and there is traffic!!!!! Get out of the way. My head is about to burst and I am about to puke! Get out of my way!!!


Reached home, drop my stuff, went straight up to my room, changed my clothes and lie down on my bed.


Did not move for the next 2 hours. I woke up feeling better. But with the sad reality that I may never order coffee at Starbucks again.


Sigh...I will have to a tea drinker at Starbucks!!??

Is money more important or is love more important?

Which is more important, Love or Money? What is your answer?

The idealistic answer is love.
The realistic answer is money.

Sometimes life is not as straightforward. Even for the most idealistic person, there will be circumstances that make the person choose money.

Let me give you a scenario.

Girl and Boy are childhood sweethearts. They grew up in a small town and then went to KL to live and work. The girl advances much faster in her career than the boy. Boy struggles to keep a steady job. He feels disillusioned, although he tries hard but it seems like luck is just not on his side. Meanwhile his girl advances up in her career and mixes with the corporate and professional people. Boy does not fit in to the crowd. Girl’s boss takes on interested on her and pursues her. He is stable, doing well in career and provides the security that Boy does not have. While she loves Boy now, she also feel they have drifted apart and she is thinking of her future. She also believes that he will eventually succeed but just that it is not happening now. She may not love her boss as much but she feels she can grow to love him for he is a good man.

So, should she be realistic or idealistic?

Should she choose money and stability?

Or should she stay put with a struggling man all because of love?

What are your views?

Money Money Money

Why can't people part with money?

What more if the money is not theirs?

If the money is not yours eg borrowed, then why is it so difficult for you to give it back?

It was never yours in the first place!

I don't understand but money is just a funny thing, make people do and say crazy things.